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Would you 'out' a cheater on a website?  Actions...
Posted: by Chatelaine_Team on Tue. 19 Jul., 2011 at 10:46:19 AM
What do you think about a website where you can search the profiles of past cheaters? Do you think they got what they deserved? Or do you think they are entitled to their privacy?

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Yes,  Actions...
Posted: by ao_ on Tue. 19 Jul., 2011 at 11:37:19 AM
In reply to: Chatelaine_Team "Would you 'out' a cheater on a website?"

I guess I would be very tempted to “out” a cheater if I found out that she/he was running around having relationships without consideration to both safer sex and people’s feelings.

 

What do I think about it? There’s a quote;

 

Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead. (Benjamin Franklin)

 

Cheaters should expect to be “out” eventually and know that is the risk they are taking when they cheat.  

I don’t think everything on those site is true though. I think anger, jealousy and/or  revenge would have motivated some people to post lies.

 

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. - Elbert Hubbard

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if it wasnt your partner that you were outing  Actions...
Posted: by jadeyy on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 6:11:11 AM
In reply to: ao_ "Yes,"
why would anyone do this?  I wouldnt do it, even if it was my partner let alone anyone else

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mr. Harper really doesn’t appreciate people who disagree with him and he’ll be damned if he’ll help them spread their unwelcome views.

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I'll ask  Actions...
Posted: by ao_ on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 7:17:05 AM
In reply to: jadeyy "if it wasnt your partner that you were outing"

you the same question.

If you knew about a man like this, would you "out" him? 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwQgJ4FdPo0

 

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. - Elbert Hubbard

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not jadeyy, but  Actions...
Posted: by yvonne on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 11:07:40 AM
In reply to: ao_ "I'll ask"
After watching only about 1/5 of the video my first impulse was that I'd want to shoot him.
Ying and yang  

"While others may argue about whether the world ends with a whimper or a bang, I just want to make sure mine doesn't end with a whine."
B.Gordon

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"Outing" is  Actions...
Posted: by ao_ on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 11:45:11 AM
In reply to: yvonne "not jadeyy, but"

legal while murder isn't. ;)

 

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. - Elbert Hubbard

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isn't it ok  Actions...
Posted: by yvonne on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 5:57:04 PM
In reply to: ao_ ""Outing" is"
if you don't get caught? Angel !!!!!
Ying and yang  

"While others may argue about whether the world ends with a whimper or a bang, I just want to make sure mine doesn't end with a whine."
B.Gordon

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i havent changed my mind  Actions...
Posted: by jadeyy on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 5:14:36 PM
In reply to: ao_ "I'll ask"
why would anyone post someones name on this site?  cheaters are low class, however so is that site

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mr. Harper really doesn’t appreciate people who disagree with him and he’ll be damned if he’ll help them spread their unwelcome views.

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But  Actions...
Posted: by _Notme on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 8:55:37 PM
In reply to: jadeyy "i havent changed my mind"
I've seen it admitted on this site that she was cheating on her DH.

  


When someone shows you the truth about themselves, believe them the first time --  Maya Angelou

I think there is a quiet strength and power in being nice. Some people think that abruptness and saying everything on your mind is strength. But sometimes, having the self-confidence to lift others is the true power.

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some do out themselves  Actions...
Posted: by yvonne on Thu. 21 Jul., 2011 at 6:38:36 PM
In reply to: _Notme "But"
once it's on the net..it's out there... and as much as you cry fowl you can't take it back...same for those sites..as some have said in this thread, they are also open for abuse and slander ..I can't see myself ever going to a site like that..wouldn't even know what they were and if they existed or not...and if someone was dating a new partner how on earth would they know about such a site and to  search for info? it's like finding a needle in a colossal haystack.  Then again as one poster used to claim, all men cheat..so no point to a site like this anyways if that is the case.
Ying and yang  

"While others may argue about whether the world ends with a whimper or a bang, I just want to make sure mine doesn't end with a whine."
B.Gordon

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No, Because  Actions...
Posted: by Queen_B on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 1:15:21 PM
In reply to: Chatelaine_Team "Would you 'out' a cheater on a website?"
I wouldn't even visit a website like that in the first place. What for?
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Blowing out someone else's candle doesn't make yours shine any brighter.


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There's another side to that.................  Actions...
Posted: by Donna_still_ on Wed. 20 Jul., 2011 at 7:06:23 PM
In reply to: Chatelaine_Team "Would you 'out' a cheater on a website?"
That type of site rediculous, because ANYBODY can 'out' ANYBODY, even if that person is NOT a cheater! It seems easy for a rejected person to be made enough to put up a picture and profile of the person, and try to ruin them. I think it's irresponsible to have that type of thing available for anybody to abuse.

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I totally agree, Donna n/t  Actions...
Posted: by aquamaureen on Thu. 21 Jul., 2011 at 4:38:47 PM
In reply to: Donna_still_ "There's another side to that................."
n/t

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I've been tempted  Actions...
Posted: by vibrantgirl on Thu. 21 Jul., 2011 at 4:55:57 PM
In reply to: Chatelaine_Team "Would you 'out' a cheater on a website?"
but in the end, figured

1) I didn't want to be embroiled in legal action (I'm assuming the person could sue me for slander)
2) I wouldn't check those sites when dating someone new, so it's probably not effective in terms of warning future partners
3) because there are no controls on who can post, that makes the information highly unreliable, which people who are accustomed to lying can use to their benefit (although one site I looked at required people to swear a legal affidavit)  
4) one of the only things he cared about was maintaining was his reputation--if I took that away, he would have nothing to lose, and knowing he was capable of violence, that was another factor in not taking that action.  

It's just a sad reality that unless the damage is able to be pursued legally (as in the case of the HIV transmission, or physical abuse/stalking/harassment) it's really not going to do anything except keep the person mired in the past.  


vibrantgirl
edited Thu. 21 Jul., 2011 @ 5:04:11 PM by vibrantgirl
edited Fri. 22 Jul., 2011 @ 1:29:28 PM by vibrantgirl
 
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