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Posted: by _mom_ on Fri. 18 May., 2012 at 12:29:32 AM

I remember someone posting last year, asking if anyone celebrates the birthday of a deceased relative or friend.

Well....today, my Scott would have been 43.  We celebrated his birthday for 35 years, and why would we stop?  I could never imagine May 17th passing without some sort of tribute to our wonderful son and brother.  We had a lovely family dinner and remembered all the reason why we loved him so much.  It wasn't morbid, or a crazy party, just a beautiful night honouring an amazing young man, who was taken from us long before his time. 

And when I look at his moonflowers each night this summer, I'll remember him with love and sweet memories.

And he wouldn't want it any other way....

_mom_
edited Fri. 18 May., 2012 @ 12:30:13 AM by _mom_
 
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Posted: by wyliesharon on Fri. 18 May., 2012 at 2:11:10 PM
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What a beautiful tribute to your son!

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Posted: by krissie on Fri. 18 May., 2012 at 3:17:58 PM
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beautiful! In our family we remember the day by going to the gravesite, putting down  flowers and then talking about the deceased.  We never did go out for dinner and have a gathering the way you did, but it sounds wonderful, and yes I'm sure your precious son would have been very pleased! :) 

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Posted: by dreamer16 on Fri. 18 May., 2012 at 11:22:41 PM
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This is important for you and your family to remember your son and brother this way, so why should you stop.  Memories, recollections, and times spent together matter.  


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Posted: by Tag on Sat. 19 May., 2012 at 3:44:44 PM
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Of course it is beautiful to remember special people in our lives. Did someone say that you shouldn't Well Tough!! Just do it. You are in charge.
Sorry about your DS. How old was he?

 

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Posted: by _mom_ on Sat. 19 May., 2012 at 3:51:45 PM
In reply to: Tag "I"m not understanding the point of your post."

No one said I shouldn't.  But last year, another poster asked if anyone celebrates the birthday of a deceased person.  I just wanted to let people know how important it is to me. 

I think there are a few posters here that are very aware of Scott's life.....they're growing his moonflowers! 

BTW, he was 35 when we lost him to cancer.

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Posted: by Tag on Sat. 19 May., 2012 at 8:42:28 PM
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Things like that should not happen. I am so sorry for your loss. I'm wondering if he had children. I do remember about the moon flowers.  It very nice.


When we go to the cemetery, I always notice a grave where the boy was 21 when he died. I would stop at his grave year after year and say something.
One day I was in the office at the cemetery and I wanted to know if he had any other family buried there. It was none of my business but I could almost think of him as a relative. The Manager said there were two other people to go into that grave and I felt better that he wasn't going to be alone. Sure enough, one day I stopped and there was a Mother buried there with him. I was there on Mother's day and I stopped and talked to both of them.

I'm weird. I always keep a connection to the dead.

 

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Posted: by flowerpot on Sun. 20 May., 2012 at 12:03:57 PM
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That's honouring the life, and death of someone.  Whether you knew that person or not doesn't matter.  He was obviously taken from this world too soon and I think it's nice that you take a moment to pay tribute.


mom - Happy Birthday to Scott.  I'm sure he is happy to see your family celebrating his BD as you do.   He is there with you in spirit.
                                        

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Posted: by _mom_ on Sun. 20 May., 2012 at 5:38:17 PM
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And how comforting for him to know his mom is now beside him.

And, no, he didn't have children.  They were just about to start a family when he was diagnosed, and he was gone three months later.

Thanks for the birthday wishes, Flowerpot...I'll pass them along to him tonight!

I know some people may think I'm a bit weird....but until you've lost a child, you just don't understand......and besides, it keeps me sane!

 

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Posted: by a.doll on Sun. 20 May., 2012 at 6:16:15 PM
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to honour your son's life in this way.  I'm sure he knows and smiles down on you.

Now I understand the sharing of the moonflowers and how special they are to you.

 

 
 

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Posted: by _mom_ on Sun. 20 May., 2012 at 11:11:22 PM
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The seeds are all from Scott's own plants.  He was so proud of all his moonflowers in his garden.  I have all the videos and pictures he took late at night when they were opening. 

I'm sure he's delighted in knowing they are all over the country! 

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Posted: by a.doll on Mon. 21 May., 2012 at 4:03:44 PM
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Would it still be possible for you to send me some of Scott's moonflower seeds?  I would love to plant them in a special place in our garden and perhaps when I tell my friends the story they would plant more.

 

 
 

When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks. ― Bob Dylan

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Posted: by _mom_ on Tue. 22 May., 2012 at 1:31:50 AM
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email me at moonflowermom@gmail.com with your address and I will send you some seeds...

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