This time it's my MIL.  She had fallen and broke her hip nearly 2 years ago.  She uses a walker and is still independent.  Monday night, she slipped off the edge of the bed and landed on her shoulder, breaking the bone just below the socket joint.  She is in the early-mid stages of dementia and the family is pretty sure she won't be able to go home and manage herself.  She is in city hospital awaiting surgery on Saturday.  It will take that long for the blood thinner drugs to get out of her system.  She is determined to go home, but there is no way she can be by herself anymore.  We are hoping her doctor and Home care will step in, otherwise we'll have to do some tough love.
There is no way she can come and live with any of us, our houses have stairs and bath facilities are in the basement or upstairs. 
She is a strong willed lady (ornery and controlling to be more direct, and always has been)  I hope that she does a lot of thinking while she lays in her hospital bed and makes an important decision on her own without us having to make it for her.
I'm still looking after my DH, I am being pulled in different directions and have just about reached my limit.  We are the closest in distance to her, her daughter lives a long ways away.

Update:  Talked to Sis-in-law tonight.  MIL had her surgery this morning.  She  seems more alert tonight and ate a good supper..  A plate and 7 screws is holding her shoulder bone together.  If she has a good night and day tomorrow, they will send her back to our local hospital to recover.  I don't know if she will ever be able to go home, and that will be a battle with her we're not looking forward to.

Update #2
MIL came home to our local hospital late Monday night.  We are trying hard to talk her into considering assisted living and she will have nothing to do with it.  She says she can manage and is determined to go home.  Sis-in-law said her mom told her she was going home this weekend.  She can't walk unassisted and can't use her walker (can't use her injured arm for 6 weeks) So how she thinks she can manage is beyond us.  Not getting any help convincing her from Home care or the doctor (they are leaving it up to her).  We have given up talking, what happens will happen, I guess.

We were in the same position with my mother who resisted moving into a nursing facility. We told her the time had come and she no longer had the choice given her circumstances, deterioration both in body and mind. It was a hard thing to have to do but for every one involved it was the only solution.

She would never admit it but I think really it was a relief to her in the end. She was looked after and we were all at peace that she was in a place that all her needs were tended to.

I hope it all works out. It is hard getting old and we are all going to be there some day. These are all learning experiences.

I've been there with this, with my great-aunt.  I became the decision-maker in this situation, and the one who was there for my aunt.

I'm so sorry to hear this, both for her and for you. It's such a sin when elderly hurt themselves, their bones can be so frail. I hope the right outcome presents itself without much hardship. I feel for you and the position you are in.

but would she be open into looking into an assisted living apartment?  She would still retain a semblance of independence but would have some monitoring facilities.  She could still retain her own furnishing (albiet minimal) and would have some of her precious items around her.

I also hope she has better luck with her surgery than DH did.  We are still fighting an open surgical wound (it is getting smaller).

DH and I have already gone to our local assisted living home and checked it out.  It's bright and new and we know it's perfect for her.  Although, when it was built, she did "look into it" herself and decided it wasn't for her (there are 2 floors of apartments for those who can manage on their own with minimal homecare).  "What would I do with my time?" she said.
We also called Home care to see what the procedure is to get MIL assessed.  The patient is assessed on a number scale.  #2 and 3, they go to assisted living, #4, they go to the Lodge, #5 they go to the Auxiliary Hospital.  Homecare and the doctor try and encourage the patient to make their own decision.  They can set up a family meeting and talk it through with the patient, and hopefully make them see the light.

We just found out at noon, that the surgeon won't do the surgery to fix her shoulder until Saturday.  MIL is on blood thinners and he wants all those drugs out of her system.  So, she has a few days of laying in bed by herself to think.  And we are crossing our fingers that her thinking will take her in the right direction.  The surgeon is hoping he can put the bone back in the socket so it's lined up well enough, he won't have to cut her open.  We are hoping for that too.

Hurry up and wait.  I know there are several on this forum who have gone through the same thing with their elderly parents.  I've read their stories with interest, knowing this day was coming for our family.

SC, I'm sorry that your DH is still fighting that infection.   It's been a long haul for your guys too.  Our biggest problem here is my DH's lack of strength.  I have to do some things that for my size and strength, I have no business doing.  But on the brighter side, I can change a flat tire and change oil now! 

So glad that you've found this in your community.  :-)

Hope things improves in your neck of the wood flowerpot.  

although worse for the siblings once they understand that they will have to step in and do what is best for their mother.

It is likely that your MIL's ornery temperament is due to her dementia and she probably will not be able to conclude anything on her own about her future care. This is why your DH and his sister will have to make decisions on her behalf. I went through this process with my mother 18 months ago. Hopefully, your MIL has a power of attorney in place along with advanced care directives regarding her future. If not, this might be a good time to look into getting her ducks in a row while she is still partly cognizant.

Wishing you all the best.

that sort of thing is all in place.   DH hates the idea of having to use it.  He is very upset and has been stewing over all this since Monday night, how to get through to her without too much of a battle.  He has enough on his plate right now and doesn't need this.
We know her nastiness is mostly caused by her dementia but it still hurts.  She has brought my SIL to tears more than once in the recent past.  DH just avoided her.  She doesn't say nasty things to me so hopefully I can get through to her.  Either that or I'll be on her bad list too, soon.
MIL just turned 84.

Thanks Coho.  And everyone else for your continuing support.