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Help! Black tie event  Actions...
Posted: by lisab on Fri. 24 Feb., 2012 at 10:03:37 PM
Not sure if appropriate to post here...but it does involve a relationship with the opposite sex :)

I've recently started dating someone and he has invited me to attend a black tie charity event with him. There is a silent and live auction, a brief speech, and some dancing after.

I have no idea how to dress and get made up for this. Help!

Any tips, websites, suggestions would be most welcome.

Thank you!

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Posted: by a.doll on Fri. 24 Feb., 2012 at 10:34:53 PM
In reply to: lisab "Help! Black tie event"
but the first thing you have to do is relax!  How flattering for you that this guy is asking you to accompany him! 

Do you have time to visit your favorite salon and discuss hair styles ahead of time? I just spent a fun evening with a woman who sells Mary Kay and she gave me some terrific makeup tips. 

What do you have in your closet already for more formal events?

Give us a little more to go on!


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when in doubt  Actions...
Posted: by Simply_Trying on Fri. 24 Feb., 2012 at 11:01:08 PM
In reply to: lisab "Help! Black tie event"
The little black dress seems to always be the way to go .  Has for hair do, if your hair is long and up do is classic but for a more modern look half up half down do is popular.   Smokey eyes seem the popular right now. 

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Why not post in Beauty & Fashion?  Actions...
Posted: by Marsha on Sat. 25 Feb., 2012 at 7:43:26 AM
In reply to: lisab "Help! Black tie event"
Seems the most logical forum, since your questions are about beauty and fashion.

As ST said, a "little black dress" would be perfect but you can also stand out in something jewel toned since the "LBD" is sort of ubiquitous.  You don't need something full length (I think very few women wear long gowns all that much any more) so you can do knee length or cocktail length.  As for the rest, you should still look like yourself - basically a hairdo similar to what you wear most of the time, maybe poufed up a bit or made a bit more special but you do want to be comfortable and also still look like yourself.  As for makeup - go with your "every day" type look but a little amped up - a red lip, a bit "more" colour, shadow, etc.  ST mentioned the "smokey eye" and that could be an okay look except that for a lot of us, we end up looking either like we've got 2 black eyes or we've just emerged from the crypt, so if you don't normally for for that sort of look or if you're say, 35 or over, be very, very careful.

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It calls  Actions...
Posted: by LunaGypsy on Sat. 25 Feb., 2012 at 9:08:31 AM
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for a floor length dress. 

Edited to add. For your reference.



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edited Sat. 25 Feb., 2012 @ 9:11:57 AM by LunaGypsy
edited Sat. 25 Feb., 2012 @ 9:39:25 AM by LunaGypsy
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is this an annual event?  Actions...
Posted: by itsmeagain on Sat. 25 Feb., 2012 at 11:19:29 AM
In reply to: lisab "Help! Black tie event"

You should google (image) the name of the event and your city, you might find pics of what was worn last year to give you an idea of how formal you need to be.  You might even see your date with last year's date!

I hope you have a great time.

Please forgive the typos . . . spell check doesn't seem to work for me!

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Black tie is fun  Actions...
Posted: by tigsw_tigsw on Sat. 25 Feb., 2012 at 8:09:43 PM
In reply to: lisab "Help! Black tie event"
the consignment shops are a good place to look. Simple and elegant. I cheat when I cruise. Black silky pants or grey silver with matching top...I have several tops so I can change the look and a classy shawl plus sparkly jewellery and sandals.It works and I do it every time I cruise.

Have fun with it. Take a peek at the Oscars tomorrow night.

I love smokey eyes.Salons will do your makeup and hair. Go in once before the big night and try it out.

Silent auctions are fun too...I was at one this afternoon...I am wondering more about that and what expense might be involved for you if any. Be sure to carry an evening purse not just for the auction but it is needed for fast makeup touches etc. Do carry some money with you.

Let us know what you decide to wear...do not mean to frighten you on the silent auction...you do not have to take part if you do not want to. Wow such a neat event for you.



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As I understand from silent auctions here...  Actions...
Posted: by TheCoho on Wed. 29 Feb., 2012 at 12:29:39 PM
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winners are contacted after the event so they can pay up then. Bidders are required to enter all their contact information as they write down their bid.

I don't think, therefore, that you have to carry cash or a cheque book to the event.

You don't even have to bid if you don't see anything you want.


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Posted: by tigsw_tigsw on Thu. 1 Mar., 2012 at 10:51:43 AM
In reply to: TheCoho "As I understand from silent auctions here..."
the silent auction I mentioned was done differently this time... more like a penny sale...there were various baskets full of neat items...you put your name and telephone number down beside a number on the page..then you made a cash donation to the food bank...they in turn drew a name and on Monday people were notified...I won a useful $50.00 gift certificate and a book. It saved them trying to collect money at the end. Usually with silent auctions you really have to make the final bid and wait until the end of the event to do it...so some of them do collect the money on the spot.

other times you are called the next working day

Moral: I have to stop spending money LOL



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I Would Wear  Actions...
Posted: by Queen_B on Wed. 29 Feb., 2012 at 10:21:50 AM
In reply to: lisab "Help! Black tie event"
a long dress.

My favourite store to buy these is Belissima. Not sure if you have this store where you are. I've found a couple of gowns there for 80% off the original price. Winners can have good finds sometimes, too. As others have said, consignment stores can be treasure troves. (Alas, we seem to have fewer and fewer good ones in Calgary.)

Happy shopping and have fun at the event.

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