I lived in a community for many years. When I moved away I stayed in touch with friends there. We visited back and forth occasionally. I'm good at staying in touch with people. It gradually got a bit one-sided, that is, I was the one always initiating contact, mainly e-mails to see how people were. Then my parents got quite sick at the same time & I was getting divorced too. All my friends had met my parents numerous times, they weren't faceless names to them, but I didn't hear from anyone even once while all this was going on and they all knew about my circumstances. All I wanted was an e-mail asking "How's it going?" I didn't expect anything more than that. So I did option #1 and let it fade. I jettisoned the works, quit bothering to contact anyone in my former city of residence and have heard nothing from anyone there since. I'm slightly bitter as I considered these people very good friends but when it came down to it I guess I didn't mean much to them. I wonder if they have even noticed my lack of contact? Out of sight out of mind? No one's so busy they can't take a minute to send a short email asking how things are.